As winter quickly approaches, I thought I would cover another leadership lesson I’ve drawn from my own family experiences. At the tail end of last winter, my grandson Spencer qualified to race in the OFSAA Championships for snowboarding. If you are unfamiliar with OFSAA, it is the Ontario Federation of School Athletic Associations and is comprised of 18 regional school athletic associations from across the province. This particular competition combined all students from grades nine through twelve (14 to 18 years old) racing in the same category.
As likely the youngest competitor in the field, my 14 year old grandson came 5th.
Now, this would be amazing to me simply as a proud grandfather, and as someone who thrives on achievement, aiming high, and accomplishing goals. I find it even more outstanding, though, because four years ago Spencer, like many kids these days, experienced a particularly traumatic breaking apart of his family. Four years ago, he was thrown into a brand new identity as a child of a broken home.
People like to say children are resilient, and perhaps they are, or perhaps they don’t have a choice in the matter. The family psychologist said to expect a drop in grades at school, to anticipate anger, look for signs of depression, etc. Apparently, Spencer looked straight at the counsellor and said “if you think my grades are going to drop, then you don’t know me”.
So, a 10 year old boy took his sadness and anger and threw it into academics, into music, into snowboarding – into proving the counsellor wrong. He didn’t want to be the kid who lowered his own goals in life because the S&*$ hit the fan when he was 10 years old.
The reality is, life’s worst experiences happen to everyone. No one is immune, and whether we feel we are naturally resilient or not, there are times we need to be. When job changes happen unexpectedly. When health changes happen unexpectedly. When life changes happen unexpectedly.
I have included a few of my favourite quotes on resilience below. Please feel free to add your own to the comment section, I’d be interested to hear your personal take on resilience in business and in life.
“Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself – and be lenient to everybody else.”
― Henry Ward Beecher
“My life was my life; I would have to stare it down, somehow, and make it work for me.”
― Paula McLain
“Did you once have a grand plan which has become obsolete and no longer serves you? If there are areas in your life which must change to help you create better results, a redesign may be in order. Consider going back to the ‘drawing board’ to deconstruct what isn’t working and start anew.”
― Susan C. Young